1. The Perspective Shift: From Blame to Accountability
You will learn to identify the invisible 'default settings' and narratives that run your relationship. Instead of seeing your partner as the problem, you'll learn to see the pattern as the enemy, allowing you both to get on the same team.
2. The Physiological Shift: From Flooded to Secure
This is the core of the method. You will learn powerful, simple techniques to notice when your nervous system is becoming dysregulated and how to calm yourself down in the moment. You'll also learn the art of 'co-regulation'—how to create a sense of safety for your partner, making connection possible even during stress.
3. The Skills Shift: From Conflict to Repair
You'll get a toolkit of proven techniques for navigating disagreements safely. This includes how to raise an issue without starting a fight, how to repair quickly and effectively when things go wrong, and how to build a shared "secure functioning ethos" to guide you through any challenge.
